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Last week I met with a coach and it was such a positive experience that I want to share my thoughts on it with you in case you are considering meeting with a coach.


A few weeks ago I received an email from a coach that I have been familiar with for several years, having interacted with him on webinars on various topics. So I was already familiar with him and knew I liked his style.

I filled out the questionnaire and scheduled a time to meet. This was a bit of an impulse move on my part, as I don’t usually do things without really thinking them through.

I was a little bit anxious about meeting with him but I kept the appointment. I have some people in my realm who readily offer unsolicited criticism, so the idea of volunteering for it made me nervous. 🙂

But I had the wrong idea about what meeting with a coach can entail. A good one won’t criticize you, but rather help you recognize your strengths and offer areas where you can improve and strategies to help you do that.


I didn’t grow up playing sports so I’m not really accustomed to the encouragement that coaching can offer.

There is no shortage of people offering coaching in every imaginable area of our lives. I personally want to learn from people who are doing what I want to be doing and doing it better than I am.

If I want financial advice, I want it from someone who is financially successful. If I want business advice, I want it from someone who is actually running a successful business, not just telling other people how they should do it. If I were in the market for dating or marriage coaching, I wouldn’t want it from someone with a string of multiple divorces behind them. 🙂

You know that expression “Those who can’t do, teach.” That can be true with some who enter the coaching field, so if you are considering meeting with a coach, I would encourage you to seek out someone who is successfully doing what it is you’d like to learn to do better.

I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to be the smartest person in the room. If you ever get to a point where you think you are the smartest person in the room, first of all, you’re wrong. 🙂 And second, you need to find a better room. Because the only way we learn is by surrounding ourselves with people who are successful and who push us to up our game and do better.

Always go where the smart people are. That’s where the learning happens.


“Always go where the smart people are.”


And don’t be afraid or apologetic about investing in your own growth. Even Warren Buffett, investor extraordinaire, says the best investment we can make is in ourselves.

So I met with my coach last week and we went over everything. He gave me feedback on my website and offered actionable steps I can take to improve it.

We talked about my Amazon business. We talked about the books I have published and he offered so many great ideas on how to market them and increase sales.

We talked about affiliate marketing. And brainstormed about new book ideas.

He went through his own system for improving your marketing efforts. He was so generous with his knowledge.

I got a lot of tangible information that I can use and implement in my various businesses. But there was also an unexpected benefit from meeting with this coach.

He really affirmed just how much I already know how to do and have accomplished. He pointed out that I started my own Amazon business and was able to use proceeds from that to help pay for my daughter’s college education.

He pointed out that I built my own website and e-commerce site. And that I know how to create digital products. And create and self-publish books on Amazon. And that I am a published author with book sales on Amazon.

And that I had a blog post featured on the Today Show website! 🙂

I think sometimes when we have our noses to the grindstone we can sometimes forget just how much we have accomplished. It’s helpful to have an objective person recognize and point out just how far you’ve come.

So I came away really buoyed by our coaching session. I was able to identify areas where I can improve my efforts in my business, but also take a moment to take stock of all the things I already know how to do.

If you are looking for ways to improve in activities you are currently doing, or looking for direction in pursuing a different path, perhaps seeking out the help of a coach is something to consider.


When I started this blog and decided to call it The Full Nester, it was because I didn’t care for the term “empty nest,” and wanted to pursue activities and experiences that fortified me and filled my “nest” with positivity. Nests are not empty just because our children have left.

We’re still in here and have all kinds of opportunities in front of us and should pursue them with gusto! It’s all a form of self-care.

So if you’ve ever thought about meeting with a coach or are on the fence about it, I would encourage you to find a good one and go for it! Go in with an open mind and come away with steps you can take to improve, and celebrate the things you’re already great at!

I’d love to hear if you have or are considering meeting with a coach. Please share your experience!

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